Pre-Commitment Therapy in Asheville, NC.
Also serving Boston, MA, the Greater Asheville and Greater Boston areas. All services available online. Fully licensed in both states of North Carolina and Massachusetts.
Thinking of taking the next step in your relationship?
But it’s not as easy as it used to be. You miss the fun times, great connection and great sex you once had early in your relationship. You’ve started wondering...
Why are you fighting so much when your relationship isn’t that old?
If you argue this much now, what will it be like later on when you’ve been married for years?
You have lots of fun times, but in-between you really struggle. Why?
Or maybe you’re wondering: “Is this relationship even worth it if we argue this much?”
It’s a great sign that you’re thinking about this now!
It shows that you are thinking of ways to of handling conflict in a more positive way. Altogether, that you value your relationship.
This insight into your relationship, engagement or new marriage helps you catch problems in your relationship early. Because you acknowledge the weaker areas of your relationship, you and your partner can get pre-commitment therapy before negative patterns from becoming so deeply entrenched that it’s harder to make changes.
Getting pre-commitment therapy for these issues early in your relationship whether you are still dating, engaged or newlyweds is smart. Through couples therapy, you can set a firm foundation so you both feel fulfilled in the relationship for years to come!
What We Learn From Pre-Commitment Counseling
Did you know that your different personality styles contribute to your strong connection? You can actually use this information to improve your relationship. It’s true!
When we work together, I can help you identify the differences in your personalities. Getting clarity on these differences and accepting them can help. You’ll see how these are also the very things that can make you feel like your partner is that “missing piece.”
Pre-commitment therapy allows you to have a deeper understanding of your strengths and challenge as a couple. This will allow you to build the best possible foundation from the early days of your relationship.
EFT in Pre-Commitment Counseling
In EFT for couples counseling, we call conflict and arguments “ruptures”. Having a strong relationship doesn’t mean you’re exempt from “rupture” or conflict. Rather, it’s about what you do when it inevitably happens.
Relationships endure based upon your capacity to acknowledge ruptures and repair them. Introducing EFT for couples in pre-commitment therapy shows us that conflicts can actually be productive.
“Ruptures occur in every relationship. It’s how we repair the ruptures that determine how these bonds work out for us.”
Yes! Conflict in a relationship can be productive.
Pre-Commitment Counseling Can Help You and Your Partner Learn How to “Fight Fair”.
A component of pre-commitment counseling is learning how to truly resolve conflicts. This is better than sweeping just sweep them under the rug hoping they will somehow disappear. Because when we do, that that lump under the rug just gets larger and larger over time.
EFT for couples is effective for couples seeking pre-commitment counseling. It works. Through pre-commitment counseling, I can help you and your partner learn how to grow together through conflict.
Hesitant to Start Pre-Commitment Counseling in Asheville?
You might be telling yourself that it’s too early to seek couple counseling. You’re not sure a commitment is going to happen, right?
Does this sound familiar? You have found someone who you feel drawn to. But, you’re arguing too often or too intently. This is a sign that EFT for couples needing pre-commitment counseling can offer you a much quicker path to reconnecting with the love and affection you are used to.
Pre-Commitment Counseling is Likely the Boost Your Relationship Needs
In fact, it’s likely that you are arguing so often because you have begun to truly fall in love. You care about this relationship. Therefore, you keep trying to reach back for that feeling of closeness you had in the beginning. But you are disappointed if you can’t do it. This is something EFT for couples pursuing pre-commitment counseling will realize.
Through pre-commitment counseling sessions, we will look under the disappointment and defensiveness. This has begun to block those feelings and clear them out before they become chronic. Then you can make a clearer decision about your path forward a couple. To learn more about EFT for couples, follow this link.
You are not alone! Here are some resources to get you started.
Try this Myers-Briggs tool to see how you are different.
Use my Compatibility Quiz to see how strongly you function as a couple.
Or, just call me and start pre-commitment couples therapy! I’ll help you to figure it out and give you some guidance and support in your decision making process.
Start Pre-Commitment Therapy in Asheville NC
*Online pre-commitment therapy services also offered anywhere in North Carolina or Massachusetts
The arguing and disagreements sometimes feel overwhelming. You've questioned if your relationship is really working. When you're ready to make your relationship the way you want it, follow these steps:
1. Reach out by filling out our contact form.
2. Get to know me, Paula Z, as your new couples therapist.
3. Set up your new life in the best way possible, with pre-commitment therapy now.
Other Services Provided in North Carolina & Massachusetts
Life can be very complicated. To reflect that, I offer many different counseling services and have a wide range of experiences as a mental health provider. At my Asheville, NC counseling office, I can help you find meaning and connection in a variety of ways. I offer couples therapy for a wide range of concerns including marriage counseling and LGBTQ friendly couples therapy. In addition, I offer family therapy to address issues so your family can improve your ability to work together.
If you aren’t physically located in Asheville or getting to my office is a challenge, I also offer online counseling. I am able to offer online counseling services to anyone in North Carolina or Massachusetts.
Whatever you’re going through, you don’t have to do it alone. You deserve to feel connected, supported and like the best version of yourself.
Learn the tools you need to build a relationship that lasts.
Get in touch to schedule your free 20-minute counseling consultation.